Have you ever noticed what happens when your daughter feels jealous of a friend or, even a stranger?
Jealousy’s a funny thing; it’s an intense emotion that can cause all sorts strange behavior and prickly feelings for teenage girls.
But what if your daughter looked at jealously a little differently …
It is her mind and body’s way of letting her know she wants MORE for herself.
That’s exactly what many of my new clients want … MORE.
The Human Experiment – Teenage Girl Style
When my clients come to me for the first time, they’re convinced that everyone else’s life is easier.
So, when it’s time to dive in and create a step by step plan to feel more connected, more confident and happier, I usually hear something like, “is this going to be really hard?”
But guess what happens instead …
My clients recognize where the control lies and that taking the first step, when you have a plan, is actually easy.
So, I’d like to invite your daughter to start by trying one simple thing …
Observing Her Habits
- how much fun she was having?
- what thoughts are on repeat?
- a typical day’s sleep / wake / nutrition schedule
- how much movement / exercise is she getting
Is your daughter wondering, what’s so interesting about her habits?
Well, they’re actually responsible for many of the choices and decisions she makes on a daily basis.
According to developmental molecular biologist Dr. John Medina,
“Most of us have no idea what’s really going on inside our heads. Yet brain scientists have uncovered details every business leader, parent, and teacher should know—like the need for physical activity to get your brain working its best.”
Medina goes on to say …
- Every brain is wired differently
- Exercise improves cognition
- We are designed to never stop learning and exploring
- Sleep is powerfully linked with the ability to learn
- Stress changes the way we learn
So, go ahead and share a few of Dr. Medina’s Brain Rules with your daughter.
Because, what if she could be happier and feel more confident just by moving, sleeping, and having fun?
Rule #1: Exercise boosts brain power.
Exercise improves cognition for two reasons:
- Exercise increases oxygen flow into the brain, which reduces brain-bound free radicals.
- Exercise acts directly on the molecular machinery of the brain itself. It increases neurons’ creation, survival, and resistance to damage and stress.
Rule #7: Sleep well, think well.
- Sleep must be important because we spend 1/3 of our lives doing it! Loss of sleep hurts attention, executive function, working memory, mood, quantitative skills, logical reasoning, and even motor dexterity.
- Taking a nap might make you more productive. In one study, a 26-minute nap improved NASA pilots’ performance by 34 percent.
Rule #12: We are powerful and natural explorers.
- The desire to explore never leaves us despite the classrooms and cubicles we are stuffed into.
- Babies are the model of how we learn—not by passive reaction to the environment but by active testing through observation, hypothesis, experiment, and conclusion.
Think about it this way, it’s your goal, as a parent, to help your daughter recognize that she makes choices every day.
Some are easier than others.
Sometimes they clearly boost her confidence.
Other times, they’re counterproductive and offer invaluable life lessons.
Either way, she has input and ownership over her ability learn and grow.
Here’s to cultivating a more resilient teen,
MSW, Parent and Teen Coach
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For more information about Dr. John Media’s Brain Rules, resources and excellent books, please visit his website at http://brainrules.net