Are You Wondering Where Your Sweet Little Girl Went

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Are you Wondering Where Your Sweet Little Girl Went? | Ep 1

Show Notes

I promise, you’re not the only one.

Let’s solve the mystery today, with 5 little hints into what might be going on.

But first, let me ask you…

Is your daughter’s lack of engagement right now making you feel like you’re at a bit of a loss?

And not quite sure how to handle things?

For many of my clients, and honestly myself included, that unsettling feeling you get when things feel out of control can really strike a loud emotional cord.

Because if your daughter isn’t really talking to you, it’s super easy to make assumptions.

As parents, it’s a natural tendency to push, pull and plea, just to get a glimpse into her world.

So, if you’re wondering …

Yes, some of the rumors are true, parenting a teenage girl can make you feel like you’re balancing on the wobbly slope-of-uncertainty.

Because she’s establishing her tribe outside the family and relying on her friends, rather than you, for advice.

But, please – don’t be fooled by her aloof attitude, eye rolls or sass.

And, don’t hand in your resignation just yet.

Because even if your daughter is spending a lot of time and energy building her tribe outside the family, she still needs you; I promise!

And rather than wondering where your sweet little girl went, let’s try to solve that mystery with 5 Hints.

And hopefully, you’ll figure a few things out …

First, give her feelings a way out.

Approach your daughter’s situation with a sense of curiosity by asking “what’s happening?”

Responding with a question, such as, “What can I do to help you right now?” will keep the conversation going.

Second, seek to understand before being understood. 

It’s SOOO easy to jump to conclusions when you’re out of the information loop.

Instead, ask your daughter to help you understand what’s she’s going through.

Third, role model that getting support is okay.

Humans aren’t meant to go it alone.

Share a time when someone helped you handle a tough situation.

Fourth, offer a space for love and connection.

Reach out and give her a hug or reassuring touch on her arm.

Physical touch releases Oxytocin, the hormone that creates the feeling of trust and connection.

Fifth, build positive momentum. 

Your daughter is listening to you, even if it doesn’t seem like she is.

And you play a key role in building her confidence and resilience.

Even if it looks and feel a little differently than it has in the past.

It’s one hundred percent true that unraveling her behavior can be challenging.

So, I want to offer you a tool that’ll give you some clarity.

It’ll help you understand

  • what’s developmentally normal
  • where your daughter’s thriving
  • and where she may want to raise her emotional awareness

So, she can be as happy as she wants and deserves to be.

You can find this tool on my website

The link to the Quiz is easy to find on my home page.

Discover: Is Your Teen Daughter Resilient Enough for All of Life’s Adventures?

And if you’re ready to fill your toolbox with tools that’ll strengthen your daughter’s resiliency muscle, tune in next Tuesday.

Because we’re going to dive into How to Raise a Socially Intelligent and Resilient Teenager.

Until next time, remember, connection is the key to happiness

So, let’s keep growing together

Show References:

Quick Quiz

Discover: Is Your Teen Daughter Resilient Enough for All of Life’s Adventures?