Somewhere between childhood and adulthood your teenage daughter passes through the copious rite-of-passage called adolescence.
Those turbulent teenage years where it’s exciting to watch her grow into her own person – but hard to:
- let go and lose control
- make sense of her intense feelings
- manage your differences of opinion
Do you remember your teenage years?
When I look back, my heart and mind are filled with memories that range from …
- laughter to heartbreak
- personal achievements to tough life lessons
- best friends to tribal unrest
We’ve all been there, and, your teenage daughter is “there” right now.
The problem is, not only is she navigating all the typical transitions you and I experienced, she has another beast to contend with … the perception-warping world of social media.
The reality is, your daughter is consistently exposed to images and content of faux perfection that can infiltrate her psyche.
Over time, this deceiving content puts a damper on her self-image and distorts her view of the world.
Ironically, the compelling desire to establish a genuine relationship with her peers is so enticing, that she continues the precarious networking endeavor, despite the negative consequences.
As parents, it hard to know when and how to provide support.
If you’re suspicious, but unsure, about how social media is affecting your daughter, try deeply listening (without comment) when she talks about her peers.
And, be on the lookout for off-handed comments about:
- FOMO – fear of missing out and/or being excluded
- Scarcity – feelings or beliefs that she’s not “enough”
- Fabrication – twisting assumptions into personal truths
If you notice your daughter falling prey to these falsifications, try taking a trip back in time…
Re-awaken her inner voice and unique gifts by:
- Talking about an event where she beamed confidence
- Identifying the accomplishments she’s most proud of
Re-calibrate her perception of herself by:
- Looking back at uninhibited childhood photos and videos
- Addressing the number of altered and filtered photos
Re-fill her emotional tank and illuminate her spirit by:
- Reading her favorite childhood story
- Watching a movie that inspires her
A gentle reminder that your daughter is not alone and can handle the bumps associated with adolescence, will help her regain a sense of clarity.
Wrap up your time together with a sincere recognition of your daughters ability to remain a compassionate, loving, positive force in the world.
Go ahead … break out those hilarious home videos, the one’s that warm your heart and make your belly hurt.
As Steve Jobs said, “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
Have you and your daughter found a way to filter the distractions associated with social media and stay true to your heart and intuition?
We’d love to hear from you!