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Is something really good about to happen for your teenage daughter?
The anticipation kinda makes your heart speed up.
When your heart beats a little faster your mind and body feel inspired, perk up and pay attention, right?
Welcome back to Episode #17
Where we’re diving into part two, how to create meaningful educational experiences, of the four-part series that addresses my signature coaching system, 4 steps to cultivating resilient teens.
Because, as parents, how many times have you thought …
I just want my daughter to be happy and live up to her greatest potential – I know she has what it takes!
But creating a meaningful educational experience isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach.
There are several variables that come into play, such as, your daughter’s …
- Learning environment
- Approach or style of learning
- Her sense of self (the first of this series in case you missed it)
- And her past experiences
And the list goes on.
But guess what?
You’re right – your daughter has what it takes to reach her full academic potential.
And we’re going to identify two blocks that get in the way for most teenagers and offer you 2 Key Tips to avoid them.
Two Biggest Blocks
After working with teens over the years, it’s clear that distractions and desire (or lack thereof), have the most power over the other variables and can throw your daughter off her academic path.
Distractions – are all those “things” that prevent your daughter from paying attention.
Desire – or lack thereof – with subjects or topics that feel hard to her, wrecked her confidence in the past, or just don’t interest her.
For example, if you’ve walked into your daughter’s room when she’s supposed to be doing her schoolwork, buuuuttt, is playing Among Us, OR, if you’ve heard your daughter utter “Ugh, what’s the point of this, forget it, I can’t figure this out!”
You’ll appreciate the 2 Key Tips Every Teen Needs to Create a Meaningful Educational Experience Tips we’re offering today.
2 Key Tips
Here’s the thing … as parents, you know that a few shenanigans are part of the developmental landscape for teens because having some fun along the way is what keeps ‘em going.
And honestly, getting distracted is never really the point, because your daughter knows she needs to get busy with the task at hand.
The point of playing, searching or whatever her go-to distraction is, is really to drum up some happy hormones, like dopamine, because that’s what feeds her motivation.
And I can’t help but ask if you’re familiar with CPA, or the concept Continuous Partial Attention? If not, you may want to listen to podcast Episode #11 Help Your Daughter Stay Focused in a World Full of Distractions with a 3 Step Solution.
I’ve gotten some great feedback on how helpful The 3 Step Solution is for helping teens stay focused, because the reality is, we’re living in a world full of distractions.
Okay, let’s keep going and get into the first Key Tip Every Teen Needs to Create a Meaningful Educational Experience.
If your daughter is hungry to increase her performance and have more time for the things she loves, she’s going to want to learn how to work smarter.
And the first step to working smarter is to learn how to manage her mindset.
As World-renowned Stanford University Psychologist, Carol Dweck, teaches us, it’s not just your ability and talent that bring you success, it’s how you approach life’s challenges – with either a fixed or a growth mindset.
In her book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential, Dweck invites us to change the way we look at success and failure.
An example of a fixed mindset, is “believing that your qualities are carved in stone” which “creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over.”
Whereas a growth mindset offers room to learn and grow, because it looks at your perceived failure as information “this didn’t work, I’m a problem solver, and I’ll try something else.”
Take Inspired Action
The second Key Tip Every Teen Needs to Create a Meaningful Educational Experience is to take inspired action.
One of my favorite Authors and Researchers, Brené Brown, shares a lot of content related to taking inspired action.
Though, her acronym “DIG Deep” is relatable and easy to remember.
DIG means – get deliberate, inspired and going.
As she reminds us, when people are “deliberate in their thoughts and behaviors through prayer, meditation, or simply setting intentions; you’re inspired to make new and different choices and get going.”
So rather than allowing your daughter’s conflicted feelings and desires about her assignments or tasks at school to throw her off track, help her dig deep and take inspired action.
Brené Brown says, “We Can Do Hard Things” and I love that.
A few other sayings that’ll motivate your daughter from the inside out and nurture her growth mindset are:
- “I can do this”
- “I’ll try my best”
- “I’m going to get this done”
Listener Shout Out
And because managing my mindset and taking inspired action are my motto for these podcasts, I want to give a shout out and express my gratitude to listener MichachelGD for sharing this review on the iTunes podcast app:
“I love that the Cultivating Resilient Teens podcast is short enough for busy parents to digest in bits. It’s so helpful to take in a smaller amount of information and apply it instead of feeling overwhelmed by hearing all about the things I should be doing and feeling incapacitated.”
I’m so happy to hear that you feel like this podcast offers advice that feels doable and fits in your busy schedule.
And I am loving learning and growing with you all.
Speaking of growing, it’s no secret that the social aspect of growing up for teenage girls can be painful. It sems like we all have a story or two that have caused us to feel emotionally wounded.
But there are a few tried and true approaches that can give your daughter what she needs to design healthy social scenarios and feel good about who she is and who she hangs out with.
And I’m excited to share those with you next week.
The New Psychology of Success, How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential by Carol Dweck, Ph.D.
The Gifts of Imperfection, Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brené Brown