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It’s been said that the proof is really in the pudding … what do you think?
If you think about it this way, how will your daughter discover how amazing she is, if she doesn’t know what she’s really made of?
Last week’s podcast Ep -21 How to Stop Being Jealous and Teach Your Daughter to Create What She Really Wants with 3 Actionable Solutions seems to have let the cat out of the bag, so to speak.
It sparked a lot of honest and vulnerable conversations because the painful emotions that come up around jealousy and the feelings of defeat that the comparison gremlins bring on, can be especially hard for teenage girls.
But the good news is, it doesn’t have to.
And if you’ve been listening for a while, you know that the purpose of this podcast is to touch on life’s challenges IN ORDER TO give your daughter the right tools for the job, so she can feel confident to:
- take inspired action
- and handle life’s adversity and adventures with integrity
Yes, the big emotions that come with jealousy and comparison can cause your daughter to doubt herself and feel debilitated, at times.
None of us are immune to this human experience.
So, if you know of a parent raising a teenage girl who’s looking for helpful resources and doable strategies, please share this podcast.
Or leave a review on the iTunes podcast app because we really are stronger when we support one another.
And speaking of the right tools for the job, we want to thank the listeners who wrote in and shared that they’re tired of fighting the jealousy / comparison battle and especially to the teenage girl who said, “please just tell me what to do so I can feel better about myself.”
That’s why we’re sharing two key questions that came out of episode #21.
Because we want to give you simple, doable actions that’ll take you from stuck to clear minded to motivated.
Listener Question #1
Q: “What do you mean when you say, don’t be afraid of your emotions?”
A: Think of it this way, your emotions serve a purpose. They are there to guide you and teach you by helping you sift and sort what you want and what you don’t want. Look at them like you would a science experiment, pause and write down your observations.
Listener Question #2
Q: “What can you do to stay calm the moment, when you feel super jealous?”
A: Try this subtle mindfulness tool. Rest your hand at your side or in the pocket of your hoodie.
Press each finger firmly into your thumb while stating this affirmation, either quietly or in your head:
Pointer finger: “I”
Middle finger: “am”
Ring finger: “enough”
Pinky finger: “today”
I am enough today – repeat several times.
A Personal Experience
Before we wrap this up, we want to share a quick, relatable story with you.
A few years ago, a client of mine, let’s call her Laura, came in wanting to feel more confident.
To offer some context to the story, Laura’s sister was quickly becoming a celebrated, accomplished athlete.
And although Laura was happy for her sister, her mixed emotions were causing a lot of confusion.
And it’s hard to solve your problems with the thinking you used when you created them.
Sometimes you need a thinking partner and by integrating my signature coaching system, 90 Days to a More Resilient Teen Laura found the clarity she was looking for.
The Bottom Line
Laura realized that it wasn’t about forcing herself into finding a sport she’d excel at, too.
What she REALLY WANTED was to feel the emotional high that comes from a deep sense of pride.
The kind of pride that comes from doing something you feel good about.
Because when you feel good, you’re happier.
And when you’re happier you have the clarity and motivation to build your confidence and resilience.
Your Daughter’s Turn
So, if you’re thinking yes, I want to feel that confident emotional high too, you are certainly not alone.
The number one question parents asked me last year was “How can I help my daughter feel more confident?”
You’ll find out how to embrace and nurture your daughter’s confidence and grit – spoiler alert, it’ll boost her confidence – in episode #14.
Because watching your daughter bloom is one of the greatest gifts a parent gets to experience, let’s make sure your daughter has what she needs – all the ingredients to create the life she craves and deserves.
Because, after all, the proof is the proof in the pudding.
So, I invite you to embrace the opportunity to discover what she’s really made of.
And, if you need to simplify the recipe, take the quick quiz Discover: Is Your Teen Daughter Resilient Enough for All of Life’s Adventures? on my website, Cultivating Resilient Teens
It’s designed to give you the clarity you’re looking for.
I look forward to talking with you next week.
Until then, remember … every experience you have is perfect for your growth.