Have you ever tired talking to your nervous system?
Sounds silly, right?
Well, if the approach you’re taking with your teenage daughter isn’t working right now, I’d like to invite you to give it a try.
Think about it this way … when emotions are running high, it’s normal for your body and mind to tense up.
When your contentious energy collides with your daughter’s emotions, no one feels good about the outcome.
The good news, YOU have the power to change that.
Here’s the thing, you want to have a constructive conversation with your daughter so you can get to the bottom of what’s really going on and support her.
But you’ll need to activate Step Two of the Rapid Response Guide – Make it Safe – to achieve that goal.
So, before you respond to anything going on between you and your daughter, try this:
Choose THREE WORDS that will create the vibe you want – and – set the stage for a comfortable and soulful interaction.
Words that my clients have used are:
If you’re having a hard time coming up with your three words, consider what MESSAGE you’d like to send your daughter.
And, review Step One of the Rapid Response Guide – Preventing Yourself from going to Fight, Flight or Freeze with these tips:
Because, remember, your goal is to stay “in neutral” so you can show up calm and confident for your daughter.
And, keep an eye out next week for Step Three – you’ll have your tool box filled and ready to go!